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By: Anindita Paul Most people worry a lot about sex, or the lack of it, but do little to address the root cause of their dissatisfaction. When they're not silently agonising over whether they're getting enough or the right kind of sex, they turn, instead, to unreliable sources such as friends, gossip and online porn in their quest for answers. The trouble with this strategy, says Dr Sagar Mundada, sexologist at Healthsprings, is that the "vast majority of patients that approach sexologists complaining of sexual dysfunction or an unhealthy sex life, don't suffer from any medical condition. Rather, their sex life is bearing the brunt of all the fallacies and misconceptions they've gathered along the way." Here are some of the most common myths sexologists wish you'd stop believing in 2019:
1. Everyone is having more (or better sex) than I am
The number of sexless marriages I encounter in my practice are dismayingly high. I often counsel couples in their early and mid-30s who are otherwise healthy but are completely lacking in intimacy. Many of them have not had sex for many months at a stretch. What makes matters worse is that many of them push themselves into a cycle of despair and depression by naively comparing their sex life to their friends' or what they read in magazines. To begin with, couples must understand that they are not the only ones struggling with an unfulfilling sex life. I would recommend that they introspect about the reasons for their sexless relationship - health issues that can be treated medically, or relationship issues that can be sorted out with counselling. Visiting a sexologist can also help. Often, it could be that the two people are preoccupied with their work, and their smartphones, at the cost of quality time spent together. The moment such couples become mindful of these reasons and decide to make some changes, they will notice a significant improvement in...